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Part 1 of a four part series by Richard P. Johnson, Ph.D Founder: ReCareer, Inc.

A New Vision of Working With Midlife Career Changers


Part 1: The New Call:
From Externals to Internals


As coaches we're pretty much abreast of what I call the "externals" of the jobsearch: resume writing, interviewing, the difficult job market, educational requirements, and the like. All of these "externals" are important of course, but what this four part series is about is the "internals" of the midlife career changer (MCC); looking at what's going on inside the head of the midlife changer ... that's where you'll find the real "action."

Let's look at the interior "terrain" of the MCC. First and foremost there are strong developmental forces afoot at the very core of the MCC that are pushing for expression. The MCC yearns for better internal congruence, a cleaner and clearer connection between the "what" I do with the "who" I am.

  1. Career: Is the "what" I do in harmony with the "who" I am?
  2. Family: Sometimes I feel like a stranger in my own family. What's wrong with me? What's wrong with them?
  3. Relationships: Are my friends "right" for me? How might I need to change the ways I relate to my work peers/supervisors? I need closer, more intimate connections!
  4. Self: Who have I become? Is the person that I've become the "real" me? Am I an imposter, just pretending to be someone I'm actually not? What's most important for me now? I need to let the "real me" out, who is the "real me?"
  5. Spiritual: What's my life all about anyway? Where am I going?
  6. Leisure: I've been doing, doing, doing for everybody else ... what about me? When is it my turn?
In the first half of life (all that time before the advent of midlife) the scream from the ego was to find success, indeed to become "a success." This meant that one was to somehow gain the admiration, attention, and affection of one's parents, spouse, friends, brothers and sisters, etc. To do this the younger career seeker had to prove somehow that he/she had "made it"; they had mastered some corner of the labor market, they had "triumphed" over the forces of laziness, lethargy, and foolishness of adolescence and become a full-pledged woman or man. There are many ways to find success but, they all have the same common denominator ... other people must agree that you are one. All this changes as one walks deeper into the waters of midlife.

The MCC is changing indeed; the changes are gradual but quite dramatic in consequence. We see lots of personal shifts, and lots of interior questioning:

As you can see the internal stability of the MCC is shaking; at times it seems that one's whole life is "up for grabs." Questions swirl and swirl, life carries on, but is it the life that is wanted? Everything is questioned internally. Externally the MCC may look and present as "in control" but internally it's just the opposite.

Your MCC client is probably straddling a line between two forces. On the one hand she/he feels the force of finding career success so that he/she can make a living that feeds their human needs (food, clothing, and shelter, etc.), while on the other hand she/he feels the ascending force of discovering personal significance motivating him/her to make their life one of true purpose that feeds their soul. Your client is trying desperately to bridge this gap, to discover ways of simultaneously satisfying both sides of life's equation - the "making-it-in-the-world" side, and the "making-it-work-for-inner-harmony" side.

Action Points for Part One

We're not therapists, we can't wade into the waters with the MCC in hopes of resolving all these questions ... that's not our role. But we need to:
  1. Be aware that the calm exterior you may see externally belies an internal turbulence that may be the driving force for discontent.
  2. Offer a) direction with patience, b) a plan, but without "push", c) a schedule without demands, d) understanding without creating dependency, and e) strength without dominance.
  3. Focus on the essentials of the jobsearch with the clear understanding that the elements of jobsearch may actually be secondary, or at least only half of the motivating forces behind your client.

About our expert:

Dr. Richard P. Johnson Ph.D. is a nationally recognized spokesperson in the field of retirement, career transition and adult development, having written and lectured extensively in those fields. His fresh ideas and enthusiasm for the wholistic aspects of adult development and maturation have inspired scores of maturing adults to follow their hearts and live more abundant lives. He is a dynamic, engaging, and compassionate teacher who delights in seeing his students grow in body, mind, and spirit.

He is the former president of the American Association for Adult Development and Aging, and the founder of ReCareer Inc., a coach training organization offering certification in mature career/life planning, as well as empowering individuals for the changes necessary in the new information economy.

Dr. Johnson is the creator of the ReCareer Success Inventory ©, the Retirement Success Profile ©, the LifeOptions Profile ©, and the Retirement Options © program, developed from over 20 years of retirement research and dedicated to helping people lead enriched and fulfilling lives in their second half of life.

For more information on ReCareer please contact us at:
info@recareerinc.com
314.369.3445
www.recareerinc.com


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